I have learned that if you are down, stay down. Don’t get back on your fucking feet until you are prepared to stand. Don’t get up until you have learned why you fell. Nine times out of ten, it is because you were weighing down on someone who could no longer hold you. You gave someone your power. You forgot about yourself. Let me tell you something - there is one person there for you. One person. It’s the same person that wipes your shit and feeds you and cleans up your vomit after a drunken night. It’s the same person who brushes your teeth and tends to your wounds and gets your crying ass out of the shower. The same one that tucks you into bed and cradles you in the night and fights off the darkness and embraces the light. It’s you. It’s always been you. Don’t get off that fucking ground because you see somebody you know or somebody you want to know, or - somebody you can rely on. Wipe your fucking face and get up for you. Because you can. Because it’s the least of what you owe yourself.

I needed someone to say this to me, so I said it to myself  (via w-ildfires)

mod note: “if you are down, stay down” shouldn’t be interpreted as “if you face a challenge, give up.” I think of it as, “if I stumble and fall on my face, I shouldn’t just lie there and assume that that’s where I’m supposed to stay forever. But I also shouldn’t just head right back into the situation that put me here in the first place. Instead, I should sit up — make sure I’m in no immediate danger, gather my surroundings, re-ground myself, and figure out my next move.”

(via edrecoveryprobs)